Trust

It is commonly accepted that trust is instrumental in the success of the relationship with your horse. Trust is built over time.  It comes from series of events where your horse is asked to follow you, and learns that when he does, he is safe. However, just like in a human relationship, though it takes years to build, it can only take one mistake to lose. Particularly in the early stages of your relationship with your horse, be mindful to never lead him into a situation that damages that newborn trust. Regaining it can be a long and bruising process.

Horses and Fear

Part 2: Common Causes and Solutions for Fear

It’s important to understand that horseback riding is considered an extreme sport. If you don’t ever want to take a risk, break a sweat, or get dirty, find another hobby. We concluded last month that most fear comes from a lack of ability and a fear of the unknown. This month we discuss solutions to those things.

I have heard people say a rider should “just get over” fear and/or “trust the horse.” I don’t agree. Fear can be healthy and trust is something that is earned, not simply given away. I encourage you to think less about fear and more about an alarm system inside that lets you know when there is danger. It is your job to minimize that danger and increase your skills to learn to deal with the unexpected.

Recently I was working the Hydrabull at Curt Storbakken’s and my client was facing anxiety caused by her mare rearing in the past. Her fear was obvious, both on her face and in her body. This added to the problem and the mare took full advantage of it. I hopped on her and quickly became 100% certain about the horse’s next move — straight up in the air. The rider had a reason to be scared. She felt the horse’s behavior coming but simply didn’t know what to do about it. Her fear was an alarm bell. The horse needed to driven forward in that moment and put to work, but because of the progressed issue, it was not as simple as just kicking her. She needed a reminder of her place in the horse/human relationship by reinforcing her training. I took her away from the bull and went about reconnecting her brain. I took her back to the bull and the first time we were in that scary position I put my legs in her and put her to work. The idea of rearing never surfaced. Through schooling, I had a solution and knew the horse’s mind was with me. My client is a very good rider. Now, she knows how to deal with that particular issue, and she will start to shed the fear. Capability breeds confidence. There are three types of non professional riders.

The first type I call the “Brave and Bold” rider. This person is not scared easily. If they hit the dirt they just climb back on. This type is readily associated with youth. As we get older, it becomes less appealing.

The second type of rider is the “In Training” rider. This person keeps their horse in training with a professional. Someone else is paid to provide the horse with the work necessary to make him a reliable partner. The trainer makes sure that the horse is always prepared for the rider at his/her ability level. With the right professional (one with credentials), this is probably the surest choice to avoid injury. The drawback is it is cost prohibitive for most horse people.

 The majority of my readers do not fit into the first two classifications. In order to rise above the fear, the rider must be “Determined and Diligent.” Hard work and education reap major benefits. If this describes you, build your understanding of the way all horses behave. Don’t let common sense evacuate when working outside of your comfort zone. Create a knowledge bank and apply it. Shed preconceived notions and become a student of the horse. Having said that, the average horseperson does not accurately grasp the amount of time and effort it takes to get a horse broke.

The majority of those who wrote me about fear issues, when asked about their riding habits, rode 3 or less times a week – some much less. Nothing brings horse and rider together like lots of sweaty saddle pads. I work my horses, in their formative stages, at least 5 days a week. Developing a solid work ethic in a horse and your role as leader is paramount to success. The most common cause of fear is the wrong horse for a person’s ability or lifestyle. Of the people I talked to, nearly all had a horse that was not suited for them. People have many specifications or limitations when they are horse shopping. Even worse, they often have none. “I fell in love with him” is not justification for an equine purchase. If fear is an issue, “Tried & True” needs to be at the top of the list. That quality is not found in a young horse. Ever.

Being properly mounted, increasing education and experience, and dogged devotion will result in a remarkable increase in capability. It will build trust, and the frightening, crippling fear will subside, leaving in its place the proper amount of healthy awareness that is present in all great horsemen.

If you give a mouse a cooke...

IF YOU GIVE A MOUSE A COOKIE: I often find myself thinking of this story when I am trying to explain the "why" of a horse training concept. Most often it comes into my head when I am trying to describe the things that led up to the current issue, and then what the likely progression will be.

"If you give a mouse a cookie, he's going to ask for a glass of milk. When you give him the milk, he'll probably ask you for a straw. When he's finished, he'll ask you for a napkin. Then he'll want to look in a mirror to make sure he doesn't have a milk mustache..."

It is as important to understand where a concept fits in the timeline, or big picture, of your overall horse as it is to understand the individual training technique or drill. No interaction with your horse or training moment is isolated. There is a cause and effect for each and every movement, cue, feel... It is the madness and the beauty of horse training, everything is connected. Everything.

Horses and Fear

It’s common to come across people with varying levels of fear regarding their horses. That fear can range from mild to severe and can affect training and competition. In some cases it prevents people from doing the one thing that they love most: ride. It may surprise you to know that I am not a risk taker or an adrenaline junkie. The only place where I have ever wanted to take risks is on the back of a horse. My parents have often expressed how surprised they are that I train and compete in cow horse competition because it goes against my nature. The fence work in competition is very fast and the turns are quick. I have had a couple of wrecks when horses have lost their footing and sustained many injuries during my career as a trainer, but have been fortunate to have never been critically injured. However, I know about fear.

I have experienced it up close and personal. About 6 years ago at a futurity, I watched a competitor I knew get killed during fence work. The memory is still vivid: the horse tangling feet with the cow and stalling mid-roll, feet in the air, its saddle in the middle of the rider’s back. I have not been able to erase that image from memory. For many years, there wasn’t a time I turned the corner to take a cow down the fence that it didn’t flash through my mind. It was a long road to getting over that fear. In the same year, another prominent cow horse trainer lost her life as she was slammed into a wall by a horse. It was a tough year for our industry. Most people’s fears are simpler than those extreme, specific examples, but it still boils down to fear of injury. The reality is that horseback riding is considered an extreme sport because horses are large and powerful. All horses are athletes by nature, and they are driven by flight or fight responses. Fear is nature’s way of protecting us from danger. It serves a very important purpose and shouldn’t be ignored. However, horses feed off of fear and when the rider/handler is fearful it makes things worse. 

The fear I often hear described stems from a lack of understanding and a fear of loss of control. These same people are all too often matched with a horse that is way out of their ability level. They also lack tools to approach problems logically and safely. They understand that trust is important, but they don’t know what that means, or how to find that bond with a horse. One of the things that helped me begin to overcome fear was to learn to trust my training and my horse. I realized I could feel confident in my ability to control or react to most situations. Fear of the unknown is something that can be remedied with time and experience. A tougher fear to overcome is that which comes after an accident. Even the most experienced horseperson can struggle to come back after a wreck as they discover they now lack confidence in a place where they once felt at home. 

In my line of work, I expect a certain amount of being beat up. I have been kicked, dragged, bucked off, fallen on, rolled over, bitten, and had a pitchfork kicked into my face. I have many portions of my body where there is literally no feeling. When I encounter a familiar situation where something negative happened, alarm bells go off in my head. Percentage-wise, for the number of rides I have put on horses over the years, I have been very fortunate. I believe that a lot of that is because I am a risk minimizer by nature and learned from each experience. “Alarm bells” are there to keep us safe; our education is there to tell us what to do to prevent or deter a situation. Some of you might be thinking of a terrifying memory or specific fear—realized or not—while reading this. It is foolish to think that you will never get a bruise from your horse, but I promise that if you truly can’t live without horses in your life there is a way to deal with fear.